Losing Our Way

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How many times do we lose our way? As we go through our lives, we frequently encounter moments where our plans are destroyed or life throws us for a loop. We lose ourselves and our way, forcing us to start all over again. These moments in life can be very confusing and frustrating, and if they happen often they could take us down dark and depressing roads. How do we prepare for such moments? How do we pick ourselves after falling so far?

In life we will always encounter obstacles and challenges. This is natural. But what happens when we encounter a really big obstacle? One that shakes us to our very core. An addiction, the loss of a loved one, a big financial set back, the loss of our job, the unforeseen end of a relationship? All of these are events in our lives that can happen, and we must be prepared to face such events. Nothing can prepare you emotionally for these events. You will feel what you feel when they happen, and you must find a way to cope with the aftermath of the event and find a way to continue living your life. Attachment to the event however, can be very destructive. If we cannot let go of our past hurts, failures, or traumas, we won’t be able to enjoy the present moment and take the actions necessary to build a better tomorrow. Emotional hurts are some of the worst falls an individual can go through. There is no set time for a person to heal from an emotional wound. Time helps, for sure, but to gain the most from your healing you must understand the spiritual reason for your experience. Understanding the spiritual reason for your experience can alleviate your deepest pains.

From a human being’s perspective, the reason for your experience may seem limited and unrational. A human being may come to the conclusion that it was someone else’s fault for your experience. That you were a victim some how, some way. A victim of the economy, of the government’s regulations, of the community, of the crime rate, of corporate policy, etc, etc. Human beings always try to point the blame at someone else, but never fully understanding the consequences of their own actions. As a spiritual being you will reflect on your state of life and all the actions you have committed in the past. You will view your experience from all angles… was it an experience created from your karma i.e. your past actions? For every action there is a reaction. The illusion of time prevents us from seeing this clearly, but nonetheless how we make others feel is how the Universe will make us feel through experiences. Did you experience what you did because the Universe is trying to tell you something? Trying to wake you up from your sleep? Trying to tell you that you deserve better or that there is another way? Was it an experience that you had because of your separation from your Creator? Where you drifting far from your Creator’s ways? Was it a result of the chaos that you created as the distance between you and your Creator grew? Was it an experience that you planned with only your mind and not your heart, and as such had no support from the Heavens? A spiritual being will ask all of these questions and more to find the core reason to their experiences. As a spiritual being you understand that there is more to life than what you see in front of you, and that all of your experiences are put together by someone greater than you. As such, there is no way that major events or setbacks are just happening out of pure coincidence. There is a reason, and it’s up to you to discover that. Unlocking the truth of your experience will open your world and free you from mental and emotional burdens, allowing you to recreate your life anew. So search for the truth to your experiences, and discover what is holding you back or what actions you are taking that are leading you nowhere. Getting lost is a natural part of life, but finding your way back will take a conscious effort, time, and plenty of determination. The reward of getting your life back however, is priceless. So ask yourself, are you a human being or a spiritual being? Will you take the high road or the road most traveled?

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Bradley Gaurano

What are we not saying, that we should be saying?

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What are we not saying, that we should be saying? How many times do we forget to acknowledge those who support and love us? How many times do we take the time to acknowledge our loved ones who have been there for us through thick and thin… through good times and bad times? Isn’t it amazing that with all the technology and ways we have advanced in communication, we still can’t find the time to communicate with those we care about and tell them how much we appreciate them or love them? It’s sad, but true.

My father died from colon cancer just a couple of months ago. There are many times that I wish I had told him how much I loved him, and shared with him more of myself… my fears, my worries, my concerns. But instead, I put up a front and told him everything was alright when he asked about my life. I focused the conversation on his health and his struggles, instead of opening up about my struggles. I now realize that the simplest of things such as opening up and revealing ones vulnerabilities actually brings those who truly love you closer to you. It’s a very hard thing to do, and does require a certain amount of bravery, but in the end it can be very rewarding.

So, ask yourself if you are truly acknowledging those around you… those you love and those you care for. Are you telling them how much you love them? How much you appreciate them? Are you communicating to them how you feel about them? I can assure you that your assumptions that they know how you feel already are unfounded. You must go out of your way and tell them how you feel. You must communicate with them often and vocally if you expect them to truly understand how much you appreciate and love them. If you do not tell them, they will not know. It’s as simple as that. You must show them that you appreciate and love them. Call them. Write a letter or email. Send them flowers. Take some time to connect with them and show them how much they mean to you. What does it cost? How much effort does it take? And whatever it takes do it, because you never know when such opportunities to connect with them will end.

As 21st century human beings, it seems that the world is so cold and distant… especially in the U.S. Most of us live as neighbors with others, but barely know the people across the street. So don’t be afraid. Reach out. Shake hands with a stranger. Make eye contact and share a smile coupled with a cordial greeting. Give out more hugs. Give out more kisses. Call someone even if it’s not their birthday. Reach out and say hello and not just through Facebook. Say more, love more, and share more with those around you. What better way to declare to the world that you are a Spiritual Being than by acknowledging the amazing Spirit that resides in each and every one of us? So go ahead, make a connection… develop and cultivate your human relationships… and show those around you that you care and appreciate their role in your life.

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Bradley Gaurano

Are You Unhappy?

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Are you unhappy? Not satisfied with how things are going or turning out in your life? Unhappy with the same mundane existence that you experience day in and day out? Lost your sense of adventure, purpose, or even passion for life? What happened? What happened to the life you dreamed of as a kid? What happened to all your dreams… all your aspirations? Why did they die? Let us analyze what is currently making you unhappy, and what steps you can do to get out of your unhappiness hole.

First, let’s breakdown the reasons for your unhappiness. What aspect of your life is making you unhappy? Is it your love life? Do you feel that your current partner is not everything you’d want them to be? Is it your lack of love life? Tired of being single, unwanted, and unacknowledged? Or are you unhappy with your financial situation? Too much debt? Not enough money to do the things you want or pursue the things you love? Or maybe it could be your job? Stuck at a dead end job, but forced to stay since those bills need to be paid? Are you not fulfilling your dreams by being in a career that you are passionate about? Whichever one of those situations is causing your unhappiness, you must go to the core of those experiences to discover what you can do to change how those situations make you feel about your life.

Now that you know the core of what is making you unhappy, what can you do about your unhappiness? What action can you take so that you can remove yourself from your miserable situation? You must first acknowledge that you are in the situation you are in because you chose that life. You must accept full responsibility for your lifestyle and your situation if you are to change it. If you start to play the blame game, you will never be able to fully take control of your life. If you set yourself as a victim of circumstance, then you will be powerless to alter your experiences for the better. Why is this so? Because you will always have the excuse that you are where you are because of some external influence. And giving power to outside influences gives you less power to yourself and your own strength of will.

So stop. Take responsibility, and take action. Make smarter and more educated choices.

Be aware of all the tiny choices you make that lead to the bigger life changing choices that you make. Remember, those who are good in little things will be good in big things. Those who fail to prove themselves in small circumstances, will fail to prove themselves in bigger circumstances. So start today by acknowledging that YOU have the power within you to conquer all obstacles set before you. You must change your mindset in order to change your state of being. Change the attitude -> change the issue. Until you fully understand that your world will not change until you change your thoughts about your world, change will not happen.

Now, that you’ve committed yourself to accepting responsibility for your actions and your choices, and you begin to start actively making more conscious choices in your life, you are now ready to apply the second half of the full method to transform your life for the better. That second half is the acknowledgement of an “Intelligence” that is greater than you that has a plan for you and is waiting for you to prove to “Him” that you are worthy of a better life and of the promises of a more fulfilling lifestyle. Why do I say “Intelligence?” Because this FORCE… this INFLUENCE… is intelligent. Very intelligent. And it is this Source of Life that understands and creates your experiences. You are in co-creation with this Creator when it comes to living your life in this world. So, after you begin to take action in hopes of creating a better life for yourself, you must also be open to receive what the Universe has to offer you. It might not be what your mind rationally wants or expects, but it will definitely be for the benefit of your soul and for the cultivation of a relationship with your Creator. Didn’t get that job you wanted? There’s a reason. Discover that reason. Haven’t found that “Prince Charming” yet? There’s a reason for that too. Find out what it is, and what the Universe is asking from you. Look within for your answers, and keep searching until you receive the realizations necessary to take the next appropriate actions.

So in summary, obtaining happiness in your life does require effort. A lot of effort. It also takes a good amount of introspection and reflection. You must be aware of the current choices and actions you are taking, because frankly, they are leading to the life you are currently living. Secondly, after you begin to see your actions and choices, and start to make better choices and actions, understand that there is a Greater Force guiding your life and creating your life with you. Connect with this Intelligence, and let it tell you what you need to know to begin paving the steps to an amazing and fulfilling life. This Intelligence lives within you, and all it takes is the acknowledgement of its existence for you to tap into its power and peace. The more you connect with it, the more energy and intuition you will receive. This Intelligence is the Source of all that you desire to be happy in this life. It knows the perfect job for you, the perfect mate, and the perfect circumstances for you to live a happy life.

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Bradley Gaurano

 

We’ve Moved!

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First of all, if you are reading this, I’d like to thank you from the bottom of my heart for your support and viewership. It means a lot to me, and it’s the main reason why I keep writing. I’d like to announce that I’ve migrated my WordPress.com blog to a self-hosted WordPress site. Dreamhost will be my home from now on, and I’d like to formally tell all of my wonderful subscribers that our address has changed to…

www.searchfordivinity.com

This is the new URL so please make note and visit the new site and subscribe to my posts from there. The new blog has a sleek and modern new look, as well as a ton more features and gizmos. You will also be able to share my articles on a ton of social media applications as well as connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin, or Instagram. I have a lot of new articles and things I will be sharing in the upcoming weeks so stay tuned! Other than that, thanks again for your subscription to my blog and I hope to keep providing you with excellent and inspiring material to read.

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Bradley Gaurano

How do you see yourself?

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How do you see yourself? Are you confident about who you are? How well do you know yourself? Do you know your strengths? Your weaknesses? Your likes and dislikes? As you experience life, who you are will constantly evolve according to your evolving beliefs about yourself and the world around you. If those beliefs don’t change, then you won’t change. It’s as simple as that. You know how they say you can’t teach an old dog new tricks? Why is that? Why won’t people change? Is it because people naturally are resistant to change? Could be. One thing is for certain… if a person refuses to alter or transform their beliefs about their world or themselves, then they will never change. And what are beliefs? Ideas and thoughts we carry about the world and our life that are based on what we have experienced. These beliefs come from experience and what we have internalized from our experiences. Change the belief, and you change the individual.

So going back to how you view yourself, what are the beliefs you carry about yourself? Do you find that you constantly criticize yourself? Or are you the opposite? Do you think you’re God’s gift to this earth and to everyone around you? It’s important to understand that the Universe will always reveal you for who you really are. You can only pretend to be someone you’re not for so long, before the truth finally comes out. The greatest glimpse that we can get of who we are is what others acknowledge in us. If we think we are giving and generous people, do others acknowledge those qualities in us? If not, then we are only giving and generous in our own  minds but not in reality. It’s only when the outside world acknowledges our qualities, that those qualities become alive in us. How many people call themselves loving people, but everyone around them don’t see them that way? Or when others  claim to be godly people, yet their true nature comes out showing the world for who they really are. We must be careful of who we claim to be because the Universe will put those claims to the test and see if we are who we say we are. Most of us are not who we claim to be. Let your actions reveal who you are, and let others announce the nature of your being. If you are a respectful person, then treat everyone you meet with respect, so that others can acknowledge that quality in you. If you believe yourself to be a compassionate person, then let your actions reveal your compassion, so that others can acknowledge that quality in you. If you believe yourself to be  a tolerant person, but your actions are filled with hate and intolerance, then those around you will acknowledge you to be an intolerant person. Actions speak louder than words. They really do.

Mind you, this doesn’t mean also that you are entirely what the world tells you, you are. There will be those of negative influence who will put you down or try to step on your dreams. They will try to tell you that you are a loser, or that you are stupid, or some other type of negative judgment. A negative judgment isn’t a declaration of who you are. Do not pay attention to those. When I say that the acknowledgement of those around you will announce who you are, I mean when it comes from a non-judgmental perspective. It’s when someone comes up to you and says that you are a very considerate person, because you did something considerate. Or when someone acknowledges your inability to compromise and tells you about your laziness. Those are criticisms that are based on your actions. There is nothing wrong with those public announcements of acknowledgments. Those you can place attention to. What you should NOT put your attention to, are vindictive and hateful comments that bitter and empty individuals throw at you. The haters and the trolls and the self-loathers. Whatever comes out of their mouth is trash.

The important lesson to take from this is to discover deep down who you are. Let your soul tell you who you are. Let the whispers of your Heavenly Father tell you who you are. That whisper will drown the thousands of voices from this world who tell you otherwise. For when your soul reveals the truth of who you are to you, there is no turning back and there is no greater truth. Listening to your soul and the messages your God sends you takes time and effort, and does not happen overnight. It is an internal communion that takes time to cultivate and develop. Take the steps now to listen to that inner voice. The sooner, the better.

Also keep in mind that how you see yourself is how others will see you.

The thoughts you carry about yourself will affect how those around you view you. Keep positive thoughts about yourself, then follow up those positive thoughts with meaningful actions.

You can’t just keep thinking you’re a nice person, when all your actions are not nice. Think positive, then act positive. And when you think highly of yourself, do not do so from an egotistic perspective. Do so from the conviction that you have gained from within that says you are an amazing individual sent to this world to do amazing things for those around you. Be a light unto the world, guiding everyone with your brightness. And when the light that is your soul shines for all to see, it will be then that the world will stand in amazement of what is truly a Child of God.

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Bradley Gaurano

The Importance of Discipline

What does it take to obtain the life that you desire? Really, what does it take? Is it luck? Is it faith? Is it money? Yes, you may need some of those, but from my experience one of the greatest factors in determining whether you accomplish your dreams and goals is surprisingly… discipline. Yes, discipline. What is discipline, and what does it mean to practice discipline?

Discipline is going against your mind’s desires. It’s forcing your mind to say yes, when it says no. It’s telling your body to go forward when it wants to go backward. Laziness and procrastination is your mind’s way of controlling your life. “I’ll get a better job later. I’ll eat a good healthy meal tomorrow, there’s company now. It’s too early to get up. I’ll only play for a little bit. Just one more drink.” Do those sound familiar? Whenever your mind tries to give you reasons for not upholding the goals you uphold for yourself, you must ask yourself… who’s really in control? Your mind or your soul? If you keep giving in to your mind’s desires, needs, and wants, you will never accomplish your soul’s desires. There will always be another temptation to pull you away from accomplishing what you want to. Do you want that thin body? That job that fulfills you? That college degree? That promotion? That meaningful relationship? Then don’t give in to your mind’s temptations. Exercise discipline and be determined to stick it out. To be disciplined is to be consistently in control, and not influenced by the forces around you. To exercise discipline is to accomplish your goal no matter what obstacles come in your way.

Strive hard and work hard for that which you love most. Be discipline when it comes to your health, your lovelife, your career, and your family life. Don’t let others persuade you. Don’t let your mind trick and fool you into succumbing to its needs. Take control and transform your life.

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Bradley Gaurano

Do You Really Want Change?

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Are you hungry for change in your life? What is it that you want to change? Your relationship status? Your job? Your financial status? Your relationship with your family? The way people see you? Your weight? What is it that you really want to change in your life? Have you tried to change an aspect of your life, but ended up in disappointment and failure? What happened? Do you know what you did wrong? Sometimes in life we want change, but it may not be the right time for that change to happen in our life. Other times, change isn’t happening because we are not applying the correct attitude and effort to achieve that change. Let’s analyze the route to truly make things happen in our life.

How many times have we tried to lose weight? For many of us, a ton. We’ve tried all sorts of diets and fitness programs, and avoided certain foods, and even tried to diet with partners so that we can have some sort of a support system. But did we obtain the change we wanted in our physical figure? For few of us, we did. For the rest of us, we didn’t. What happened? Why didn’t we get the results we wanted? First, we must be aware of our desire to achieve weight loss. How strong is that desire? Is it weak? Is it strong? Is it strong until some delicious meal is served in front of us, or the thought of working out to much to bare? We must sincerely analyze for ourselves how strong our desire is to accomplish the reward of weight loss. You have to want it with all your heart, mind, and soul. Once we obtain the CONVICTION that weight loss is our ultimate goal no matter what the costs, then we can proceed to the next step. And believe me, that conviction will be tested.

The next step to achieving change in our life is a CONSISTENT EFFORT. Sure, a strong desire is essential to achieve change, but just wanting change to happen is definitely not enough for change to happen. You must apply a great amount of consistent effort to obtain results. Exerting a large amount of effort a couple of times isn’t going to do it. That’s like doing 40 sit ups in one session and expecting a solid six pack to appear. It’s not going to happen. You need to do 40 sit ups continuously over multiple sessions to start seeing some results. Yes, it’s going to hurt. Yes, it’s going to be uncomfortable. Yes, it’s going to be inconvenient. But that’s the price you must pay. No pain, no gain. No reward without great effort. sending out to every online ad you see for two days isn’t going to land you that job change you’ve been wanting. It takes two hundred emails to two hundred different ads over the course of three months of solid job hunting for you to see that change. If you land that job before then, congrats… the Universe took pity on you. For the rest of us, it’s going to take a lot of effort. Consistent effort. And consistent effort requires discipline and determination. You won’t be able to apply consistent effort if you aren’t determined to do so, and if you lack the discipline to stick it through.

The last step is SACRIFICE and HUMILITY. These are the two last secret ingredients to obtaining the change in your life that you so desire. Why sacrifice? You must be able to sacrifice how you have done things in the past to be able to pave the new road that is your future. You cannot go on continuing old habits and destructive patterns and expect change to happen. You can’t keep settling for any cute guy that you meet at a bar and expect a meaningful relationship to blossom. You can’t keep eating toxic and fatty fast foods and expect your love handles to disappear some day. You must sacrifice your attachment to the way you do things in order for you to embrace the new behaviors that will lead to the change you desire. And what does it take for this sacrifice to take place? Humility of course. Which means that big chunk of EGO and PRIDE you have weighing you down has got to go. No ifs and or buts about it. It is preventing you from achieving your soul’s desires. You need the humility to accept that there are some things you can’t control. You need the humility to accept that you are wrong about what you think is right for you. You need the humility to surrender to the fact that what you have been doing isn’t taking you to where you want to be. Let the Universe tell you where you need to be. Let the Universe guide you to where you should be. Be open and willing to embrace your true purpose in life. Let go of your old perspectives and how you see the world, and be prepared to see the world in a new light. Do you have the humility to let go of old attachments that are taking you nowhere? Are you prepared to sacrifice everything for the change you so desire? There can be no glory without sacrifice. No sacrifice without humility. And humility can only come through the absence of ego.

I hope this post helps you accomplish your dreams and fulfills the changes your soul desires. Until next time…

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Bradley Gaurano

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