What is your happiness level? Take a moment to stop and really think about this question. Are you happy? If not, why not? If so, how happy are you? In what areas of your life are you happy? Are you happy with your career? Happy with your relationship? Unhappy with your family?
Your overall happiness level involves many aspects of your life. Being happy or unhappy isn’t something that can explain your state of life. One of the most overrated questions of all time is the infamous, “Are you happy?” So many times I’ve seen this question been used to get people to do things or make them realize things. The question itself begs a lot of attention. It forces you to really think to yourself, “Am I happy? If I’m not, then who or what is preventing me from experiencing happiness?” This usually leads to a blame game, and before you know it your immediate response is, “Of course I’m happy.” Because God forbid you should acknowledge your unhappiness to anyone. That would entail that you are weak and powerless to create your own happiness. And who wants to admit that? Fortunately, you can put all of that nonsense aside.
True happiness is a state of being you experience at different moments in your life in different areas of your life. One moment you can be totally happy with yourself and be totally unhappy with your career. You could be extremely happy with your relationship but extremely unhappy with your family. And if your happy in all areas of your life, well congratulations… you’ve achieved Heaven on Earth. But for how long?
What you have to understand is that happiness is something you choose and is not obtained. Happiness can be had one moment, and lost another… and all of that is perfectly okay. It is our attachment to certain moments of happiness that is our undoing. Live the experience of happiness in the moment it is born, and then let it go. Once you understand that happiness can only be experienced in the present moment, then your grasp of what happiness really is will become clearer.
Happiness is a decision… it is an acknowledgement of what is true for you. I know some of you may be scratching your heads or saying, “what is he talking about?” Once you understand that happiness can be had at anytime, anywhere, and with anyone… then you will be getting closer to the truth. The key is understanding that you have the power within you to decide what makes you happy and what doesn’t. You decide what kind of career you pursue or what kind of work you wish to devote your time and efforts to. You decide the types of friends you hang out with or the people you date. The decisions you make today will determine your happiness level tomorrow. It is time to take complete responsibility for your actions and choices. Each decision you make comes with a consequence… whether you make those decisions consciously or un-consciously. Making a decision consciously involves a complete awareness and understanding of the decision you are making. Un-consciously making a decision is acting on impulse, without any inner guidance or awareness whatsoever. We’ve all made those type of decisions before… and regretted the results they’ve brought us. I believe the biggest obstacles to achieving happiness in our lives is doubt, confusion, ignorance, laziness, and selfishness. These states of minds clutter and distort our ability to choose from the heart or to make wise decisions that will bring us happiness.
Happiness is a state of mind that can be achieved by connecting with your heart. Once you are connected you will know exactly what decisions are the wisest ones. You will know what actions you need to take to bring about the best in all of your life situations. This connection… the connection between you and your soul… is the most powerful instrument we have available to us to create the change needed to increase our happiness level. It is as one great Master put it…
“Seek ye first the Kingdom of Heaven, and all else will be added unto you.”
So the next time someone asks you, “Are you happy?” Don’t fret! Just smile and let your silence do all the talking. :D